Marriage & Family Therapist
Ryan takes a psychological and philosophical approach to therapy.
He believes that you are not your problems and that when we view life through a lens of action instead of reaction, our issues take on a new meaning and help us grow.
Ryan’s approach centers on the stories we tell ourselves about our lives and how that impacts the meanings we make, which in turn form the lens we see the world through.
Ryan believes that if you can change the lens through which you view your problems, the problems themselves may change.
With a background in social psychology, Ryan specializes in anxiety (particularly social anxiety and it’s effects on our lives), life changes and borderline personality disorder.
He believes that anxiety is a fear response and often arises when who we are comes into conflict with who we need to be.
In this way, Ryan takes a proactive approach to helping you overcome your issues instead of just coping with them.
Ryan particularly enjoys working with individuals and couples with attachment issues.
Attachment issues include people who are anxious and crave connection but can’t find it and people who are avoidant who want connection but feel unsafe with it.
These issues often pervade our relationships with others and are common, but misunderstood or overlooked problems that couples and individuals deal with on a daily basis.
Being your authentic self is vitally important to any change you wish to make in your life.
Whether it’s a better relationship with your friend, spouse or a loved one, a desire to escape the throes of depression, authenticity is crucial.
Many people struggle with a sense of self-identity and don’t know who they are or who they want to be.
Helping you discover yourself is an area which he is passionate about and looks forward to helping you.
“Despair, or folly?’ said Gandalf. ‘It is not despair, for despair is only for those who see the end beyond all doubt. We do not. It is wisdom to recognize necessity, when all other courses have been weighed, though as folly it may appear to those who cling to false hope” – Gandalf the Grey
Ryan believes that there is no problem that can’t be overcome, or at least turned into a positive.
This positive hopeful approach is center to Ryan’s view of therapy in conjunction with empathy.
Wouldn’t it be nice to know that you have someone to rely on; that you can tell anything to without fear of judgement?
No matter who you are, what issue you are experiencing, your background, sexual orientation, race or anything, Ryan views you with unconditional positive regard.
This empathy allows the therapeutic process to take place and fosters a safe and accepting environment for change.
Come as you are and find acceptance!