Utah Family Therapy

Rekindle a Marriage After Many Years of Disconnection


You may be wondering, “Is it possible to Rekindle a Marriage when it’s been so long disconnecting?”

Are you feeling a little lost in your relationship? Do you feel like the spark has gone out and it’s hard to get it burning again?

If so, don’t worry – you’re not alone. Many couples find themselves in this situation at some point in their relationship. Luckily, there are things you can do to rekindle the fire. Keep reading for our tips.


Get Rid of Distractions

Technology Distractions
Do not allow distractions to get in the way of your relationship.

Intimacy involves self-disclosure and vulnerability. In order to be intimate with another person, we have to be open and honest about ourselves, which can feel risky.

We may fear that our partner will reject us or judge us if they know the real us. Therefore, intimacy requires trust.

In order to build trust, couples need to spend time alone together without distractions. This allows them to focus on each other and really get to know one another.

When we are fully present with our partner, we are more likely to feel seen, heard, and understood by them. We are also more likely to feel love and intimacy towards them.

If you are looking to rekindle the fire in your relationship, start by spending some quality time together without any distractions.

Be More (Non-Sexually) Physical

Rekindle Your Marriage
Non-Sexual Physical Touch is critical to rekindle your marriage relationship.

One of the pieces of advice that I always give to couples is to be more physically affectionate with each other.

This doesn’t necessarily mean sex, although that can certainly help to rekindle the fire in a relationship.

But even simple things like hugging, cuddling, and holding hands can make a big difference.

Physical affection is a way of communicating love and intimacy, and it can help to build trust and connection. It’s also just plain enjoyable, and it can help to reduce stress and tension.

If you’re looking for ways to improve your relationship, make sure that you’re showing physical affection on a regular basis.

It may not seem like much, but it can make a world of difference.

Share Your Thoughts, Feelings and Dreams

Share Your Dreams
Sharing your dreams and feelings builds unity.

If you want to rekindle your marriage relationship and keep the fire burning in your relationship, it’s important to keep the lines of communication open. sharing your thoughts, feelings, and dreams with your partner helps to foster intimacy and connection.

It can be easy to get caught up in the everyday grind and forget to take time for intimate conversations. But making an effort to connect on a deeper level will help to keep the spark alive in your relationship.

Don’t be afraid to open up and share what’s on your mind – it just might be the thing that keeps your relationship glowing.

Spend Time Doing Activities You Both Enjoy

Spending Time Together
Spending time doing things together improves connection.

It can be easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of everyday life and let your relationship take a backseat.

However, it’s important to make time for your partner and do things that you both enjoy.

This will help to rekindle the fire in your relationship and keep you both happy. Plan regular date nights, take turns planning surprises, or just make sure to spend some quality time together every day.

It’s also important to keep the lines of communication open so that you can discuss anything that’s on your mind. By making time for your relationship, you can keep the spark alive and keep your bond strong.

Compliment & Express Your Appreciation for Each Other

Compliment Each Other
Compliment each other to encourage positive connection.

One of the most important things to remember in a relationship is to be generous with compliments and expressions of appreciation.

It’s all too easy to take our partner for granted, especially if we’ve been together for a while.

Make it a point of expressing gratitude for each other on a regular basis is one of the simplest and most effective ways to keep the fire of love burning bright.

Just take a few moments every day to say something nice about your partner, or write them a heartfelt thank-you note for something they did that you really appreciated.

It doesn’t have to be anything big or expensive – just a little gesture that shows how much you care.

If you do this on a regular basis, it will go a long way toward rekindling the romance in your relationship.

Make Time for Sex

Make Time For Sex
Make time for sex and connection.

There’s no getting around it: sex is an important part of a relationship. Not only does it physically connect you with your partner, but it also helps to nurture an emotional bond.

Unfortunately, as relationships progress, it’s all too easy for sex to become an afterthought. work and family obligations can take precedence, and it can be difficult to find the time and energy for intimacy.

However, making sex a priority is essential for keeping the spark alive in a relationship; carving out time for intimacy can help you reconnect with your partner on a physical and emotional level.

In addition, sex gives you a chance to express your love and desire for one another. So don’t wait until the kids are asleep or the dishes are done: make time for sex now, and you’ll be rewarded with a stronger, more passionate relationship.


If you want to rekindle the fire in your relationship, try some (or all) of these tips.

They may seem simple, but they can make a big difference in how you feel about each other.

Also you may want to consider couples counseling, and read about the benefits – it’s helped many couples turn their relationships around. 


Lets face it, who likes to talk about their crap with other people? 

If you’re like most clients, you’re used to being judged despite hearing so many people talk about non judgment and when you do open up, it seems like the more you share, the less likely you are to get compassion. 

We’ve worked our butts off to create a clinic where the unfiltered, real you, can show up and heal, so dammit give therapy a chance

We love the unfiltered real you, let’s heal together. – Utah Family Therapy Team