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6 Things to Keep the Spark Alive in Your Relationship​

When you first fall in love, everything seems perfect. The world is a beautiful place and you can’t imagine living without your partner.

However, over time the spark begins to fade. This is completely normal, but it doesn’t mean that your relationship is doomed.

There are many things you can do to keep the spark alive and make your relationship stronger than ever!

In this blog post, we will discuss some of the best tips for keeping the passion alive.


1. Be Present When You're with Your Partner.

Be Present
When with your partner, be present.

Being present means being fully engaged in the conversation, making eye contact, and being aware of your body language.

It also means being emotionally present, which means being able to share your feelings and really listen to your partner’s feelings.

When you’re both able to be present with each other, it creates a deeper connection that can help to keep the spark alive.

Of course, being present doesn’t mean that you have to be in constant communication with each other.

It’s important to have some time apart so that you can miss each other and appreciate the time you have together even more and be present with each other when you reunite.

2. Listen Attentively and with Empathy.

Listen Attentively
Listen, don't speak, listen attentively to your spouse.

One of the most important things you can do to keep the spark alive in your relationship is to listen attentively and with empathy to your partner.

This means REALLY listening, not just waiting for your turn to speak.

It means giving your undivided attention, letting go of any distraction, and paying attention to both the words and the emotions behind them.

It also means trying to understand your partner’s perspective, even if you don’t agree with it.

Empathic listening is a skill that takes practice, but it’s well worth the effort because it deepens connection, understanding, and intimacy.

When you really Listen with Love, you create a safe space for your partner to express their thoughts and feelings, which can help prevent misunderstandings and conflict.

Next time you’re feeling disconnected from your partner, try Active Listening and see how it can change the dynamic of your relationship for the better.

3. Spend Time Together Doing Things You Both Enjoy.

Spend Time Together
Spend time doing things that you both like.

In order to keep the spark alive in your relationship, it is important to spend time together doing things you both enjoy.

This can be anything from going on a hike to just spending an evening cuddling on the couch.

The important thing is that you are both enjoying yourselves and making positive memories together.

One way to ensure that you always have something to look forward to is to make a regular date night.

This can be once a week or once a month, depending on your schedules.

By making time for each other, you are showing that you value your relationship and are committed to keeping it strong.

4. Show Your Partner That You Care.

Show Your Spouse You Care
Show your spouse that you care by doing thoughtful gestures.

It’s no secret that relationships take work.

In order to keep the spark alive, it’s important to show your partner that you care.

One way to do this is through thoughtful gestures.

Something as simple as cooking dinner or planning a weekend getaway can go a long way in making your partner feel loved and appreciated.

It’s also important to keep the lines of communication open; regular check-ins will help ensure that you and your partner are on the same page.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed or disconnected, don’t hesitate to reach out for help.

There are many resources available to couples who want to strengthen their relationship.

By taking the time to invest in your relationship, you can keep the spark alive for years to come.

5. Make Time for Fun and Intimacy in Your Relationship.

Keep Intimacy Alive
Keep intimacy alive, just like when you were first married.

When you first meet someone and fall in love, it’s natural to want to spend all your time with them.

As the relationship matures, it’s important to make time for fun and intimacy; otherwise, the spark may start to fade.

Couples who make time for date nights and other special outings are more likely to stay together than couples who don’t.

In addition, couples who are physically affectionate with each other on a daily basis are more likely to report being happy with their relationship.

By making time for fun and intimacy, you can keep the spark alive in your relationship and keep your marriage strong.

6. Take Time for Yourself.

Take Time For Self

One of the most important things you can do for your relationship is to take time for yourself.

This may seem counterintuitive, but when you first start a relationship, you made time for each other and put your relationship first and as this happens you stop taking time for yourself.

Whether it’s taking a yoga class, going for a run, or simply reading a book in silence, by making sure that you’re taking care of your own needs, this will help you to be a better partner.

When you’re feeling rested and fulfilled, you’ll be more patient, more loving, and more likely to be there for your partner when they need you.

Don’t forget to schedule some “me time” into your week.

It might just be the best thing you can do for your relationship.


These are just a few of the many ways you can keep your relationship strong and healthy.

  1. Be Present
  2. Listen Attentively
  3. Spend Time Together
  4. Show You Care
  5. Make Time for Fun & Intimacy
  6. Take Time for Yourself

These tips have helped countless couples repair their relationships and build lasting, happy partnerships. 


Lets face it, who likes to talk about their crap with other people? 

If you’re like most clients, you’re used to being judged despite hearing so many people talk about non judgment and when you do open up, it seems like the more you share, the less likely you are to get compassion. 

We’ve worked our butts off to create a clinic where the unfiltered, real you, can show up and heal, so dammit give therapy a chance

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