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Matters of the heart: How to Keep your relationship strong

Continuing on the topic of an article we previously wrote on what to do to keep your relationship strong. 

No matter how strong your relationship is, it will always require some effort to keep it going. In this blog post, we’ll discuss some of the most important things you can do to make sure your bond stays as strong as possible. 

From understanding your partner’s love language to simply spending time together, these tips will help you maintain a healthy and happy relationship!


The Importance of Spending Time Together

Couples Spending Time Together
It's important for couples to spend time together.

One of the most important things you can do to keep your relationship strong is to spend time together. 

This may seem like a no-brainer, but in today’s busy world, it can be easy to let your relationship take a backseat to work, kids, or other commitments. Spending time together gives you a chance to reconnect with your partner and focus on each other without distractions. 

It doesn’t have to be a special occasion or a big production—a simple walk in the park or cuddling on the couch can work wonders for your relationship. Even if you only have a few minutes, those brief moments can make a big difference in how connected you feel to your partner. 

Next time you’re feeling disconnected, make time for each other and see how much it strengthens your relationship.

Communicating Effectively

Honest Communicate
Couples that have open and honest communication keep a relationship strong.

Communication is the way we connect with our partner and share our thoughts, feelings, and needs. 

When communication is effective, it can help to keep our relationship strong and close. If communication is not effective, it can lead to distance and conflict. 

There are a few things you can do to communicate effectively with your partner. 

First, make sure you’re really listening to what they’re saying. This means not just hearing the words, but also trying to understand the meaning behind them. 

Second, be clear and concise when you speak. This means avoiding “You make me feel…” statements, which often come across as passive-aggressive, and instead using “I feel” statements. Lastly, avoid making assumptions about what your partner is thinking or feeling. This can lead to misunderstandings and conflict. 

If you’re not sure about something, ask them directly. By communicating effectively with your partner, you can help to keep your relationship strong and close.

Showing Your Partner You Care

Show You Care
Show that you care improves your connection.

The stresses of daily life can take a toll on even the strongest of relationships. It’s important to show your partner that you care in order to keep your bond strong. 

There are many small ways to do this, such as expressing appreciation for something your partner has done, or simply taking the time to listen to them when they need to vent. 

You can also show your partner you care by engaging in thoughtful gestures, such as planning a special evening or surprising them with tickets to their favorite band’s concert. 

Taking the time to nurture your relationship shows that you value your partner and are committed to making things work. 

If you put in the effort, you can keep your relationship strong for years to come.

Resolving Conflicts in a Healthy Way

Resolve Conflict
Come together to resolve conflict and have a strong relationship.

All couples experience conflict in their relationships. It’s inevitable. 

How you handle conflict can make all the difference in whether your relationship thrives or crumbles. 

According to renowned marriage researcher John Gottman, there are two types of conflict: solvable and perpetual. 

Perpetual problems are those that can’t be resolved, like differences in parenting styles or values. 

Solvable problems are those that can be worked out, like disagreements about finances or household chores. 

It’s important to discuss both types of conflict with your partner in a way that is respectful and constructive. 

This means avoiding behaviors like name-calling, stonewalling, and contempt. 

Instead, focus on problem-solving and listen to your partner with an open mind. Handling conflict in a healthy way will help you resolve the issue at hand, as well as, it will also strengthen your bond as a couple.

Building Intimacy Over Time

Build Intimacy
Build intimacy gradually and with strength.

Over time, couples naturally drift apart emotionally. The demands of work and family life can leave little time for leisure activities, much less couple time. 

Without regular opportunities to connect, it’s easy for couples to lose touch with each other’s inner lives. 

However, there are steps couples can take to prevent this emotional drift and keep their relationship strong. 

By making a point to regularly check in with each other, both verbally and nonverbally, couples can stay attuned to each other’s needs and maintain a deep level of intimacy. 

Additionally, it’s important to find ways to de-stress together and enjoy positive experiences as a couple. 

By making a commitment to invest time and energy into their relationship, couples can keep the spark alive for years to come.

Conclusion to Keep Your Relationship Strong

By following these five tips, you can build a healthy and lasting relationship with your partner:

  1. Spend time together.
  2. Communicate effectively.
  3. Show your partner you care.
  4. Resolve conflicts.
  5. Build intimacy over time.

Your relationship can thrive.


Lets face it, who likes to talk about their crap with other people? 

If you’re like most clients, you’re used to being judged despite hearing so many people talk about non judgment and when you do open up, it seems like the more you share, the less likely you are to get compassion. 

We’ve worked our butts off to create a clinic where the unfiltered, real you, can show up and heal, so dammit give therapy a chance

We love the unfiltered real you, let’s heal together. – Utah Family Therapy Team