Accountability: Better Together

Driving home from a trip, my husband and I felt heavy with the unhealthy food we had eaten on our adventures.

We felt low energy and like our pants had been progressively getting tighter. It was time for a change in our lifestyle. We had been working out for a few years, but it wasn’t counteracting our eating habits. We decided to go on a diet. So we outlined the foods we would eat and which ones we would avoid.

After a month of following it as closely as I could, I was not losing any weight nor was I feeling better.

Written goals
We wrote down our goals and our plan but we needed accountability to succeed.

A friend referred me to an app that calculates how much I need to be consuming every day, where I can record my food and see when I’m about to overeat. My husband and I would also recount our meals to each other at the end of the day.

When I didn’t have any accountability, it was easy to slip, forgetting my goals. Once I was accountable to the app and my husband, I started seeing and feeling progress.

What does it mean to be accountable?

Everyone has weaknesses and areas to improve. Having someone to report to can help the process. Accountability is acknowledging your successes and failures in meeting your goals; responsibility for your actions and your results.

How can I be accountable?

When you’ve made a goal and a plan to reach it, you can choose someone, such as a family member or friend, to report your progress to. My husband and I were working toward a goal together so it worked out that we would report to each other.

To whom can I be accountable?

Accountability improves family relationships.

Family Members

Parent and child can be accountable to each other. Family members work together to make the family a safe and fun environment to grow and learn. They have each other’s backs.

When a family communicates, has family values, and all members work to making the family better, parents and children can get on the same level. Parents are accountable to children and children are accountable to parents. Children will feel empowered because they have a say in family matters. Parents will feel support from their children. It makes for a deeper connection between family members.

Spouse to Spouse

Spouses can be teammates, collaborating to make the relationship and each other better. They can recognize each other’s weaknesses and help strengthen them. My husband knows that I have a problem concentrating on school work, so he will ask me what I was able to achieve that day. He isn’t rude or demeaning about it, just supportive. I want to be able to tell him what I’ve accomplished.

Spouses can be accountable to each other for their feelings, words, and actions. When conflict arises, spouses can acknowledge what they could have done better, and how they can fix the situation. Both parties are responsible for any problems and can fix it together. When there is blame, it hinders connection and halts improvement. Be accountable together.


You have the power to direct your life.

You ultimately have the power to make your life what you want. Be accountable for you, and you’ll be able to improve yourself and your life.

If you are not honest with yourself about your effect on situations, you cannot make any progress. If you take responsibility for your thoughts, feelings, words, and actions, you can find where you need to change, and set goals toward a better life and self.

Accountability brings support in our endeavors, giving us the tools to have the life and relationships that we desire. “Accountability is the glue that ties commitment to results.” Anonymous

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