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5 Signs You're in a Toxic Relationship


It can be tough to admit that you’re in a toxic relationship. After all, you probably have good memories of the time you spent with your partner.

But if you’re feeling like your relationship is more hurtful than helpful, it’s time to face the facts. Here are five signs that you’re in a toxic relationship: 

1. You Feel Like You're Constantly Walking on Eggshells

Walking On Egg Shells
Do you feel like you have to walk on eggshells?

Couples in toxic relationships often feel like they’re constantly walking on eggshells. The tension is always high, and they’re never quite sure what will set their partner off.

They may try to avoid conflict altogether, or tiptoe around sensitive topics.

This can be exhausting and damaging to the relationship. It’s important to remember that all couples argue from time to time. It’s how you argue that matters.

If you’re constantly worried about making your partner angry, it’s a sign that something is wrong. Toxic relationships are marked by a lack of trust, respect, and communication.

If you’re in a toxic relationship, it’s important to seek help from a qualified therapist or counselor.

They can help you identify the problem areas in your relationship and develop healthy coping mechanisms.

2. Your Partner is Extremely Critical of You

Toxic Relationship Being Critical
Healthy relationships are not critical of each other.

In a toxic relationship, your partner is extremely critical of you. This type of criticism is hurtful and poisonous to the relationship.

It undermines your self-esteem and makes you feel inferior. The worst part is that it can be constant and never-ending.

You may feel like you can never do anything right in your partner’s eyes. This type of toxic behavior can eventually lead to the breakdown of the relationship.

If you are in a relationship where you are constantly being criticized, it is important to get out of it as soon as possible.

Find someone who will love you for who you are and who will accept your faults and all.

You deserve to be in a healthy and happy relationship.

3. Your Partner Makes You Feel Guilty for the Simplest Things

Toxic Relationship Using Guilt
Manipulation by using guilt is a sign of a toxic relationship.

One of the most toxic things in any relationship is when one partner starts making the other feel guilty for the simplest things. 

It might be something as innocent as not wanting to go to a party or not being in the mood for sex. 

But whatever it is, the net result is always the same: one person feels dragged down and suffocated, while the other feels like they are constantly walking on eggshells. 

This dynamic is incredibly destructive, and it often leads to a breakdown in communication and trust. 

If you find yourself in a relationship where you are constantly being made to feel guilty, it’s time to take a step back and assess what’s really going on. 

Chances are, you are dealing with a toxic partner who is incapable of meeting your needs without resorting to manipulative tactics. And that’s not something you need or deserve in your life.

4. Your Partner Doesn't Let You Have Any Independence or Privacy

Toxic Relationship Control
Control is toxic in any relationship, you need alone time.

One of the most important things in a relationship is feeling like you can be yourself without judgment. Having your own independence and privacy allows you to do this. 

When your partner constantly demands to know where you are, who you’re with, and what you’re doing, it creates a toxic environment where you don’t feel like you can breathe. 

This is because they are trying to control you and they don’t trust you. This lack of trust will eventually lead to the downfall of the relationship. 

In order to have a healthy relationship, it’s important that both partners have their own space and are allowed to have a life outside of the relationship. Otherwise, it’s just not going to work.

5. You Don't Feel Like Yourself Around Your Partner Anymore

Don'T Feel Like Yourself
Another sign of a toxic relationship, you're not yourself.

You know the feeling. You’re with your partner, but you just don’t feel like yourself. 

Maybe you’re more on edge, more irritable, or you find yourself snapping over things that wouldn’t normally bother you. 

Or maybe you just feel drained, like you don’t have the energy to deal with your partner’s crap anymore. Whatever it is, you know that something is off. 

And chances are, if you’re feeling it, your partner is too.

The first step to fixing this is to communicate with your partner. Talk about what you’re feeling and why you think things have changed between the two of you. 

If your partner is receptive and willing to work on things, then great! But if they’re not, then it might be time to consider whether or not this relationship is right for you. 

After all, you deserve to be with someone who makes you feel like yourself. 

Life is too short to settle for anything less.


Lets face it, who likes to talk about their crap with other people? 

If you’re like most clients, you’re used to being judged despite hearing so many people talk about non judgment and when you do open up, it seems like the more you share, the less likely you are to get compassion. 

We’ve worked our butts off to create a clinic where the unfiltered, real you, can show up and heal, so dammit give therapy a chance

We love the unfiltered real you, let’s heal together. – Utah Family Therapy Team