Just Perfect Can Be Just Enough

We have all known that person who needs things to be just perfect!

Maybe you are that person, someone struggling with perfectionism and feelings of doubt and depression when you don’t meet the standards you have set for yourself.

One problem with perfectionism is the constant feeling of failure. None of us can be perfect all of the time, and when we fall short of this ideal, it can lead to depression and self-doubt.

This Depression can also manifest in forms of anxiety, which at times can seem crippling. Of course, this stress only makes it even more impossible to meet the standards of perfection, creating a rather vicious cycle for some.

Accept Less Than Best

How does one get from accepting the standards of just perfect to just enough? How can one who struggles with perfectionism learn to accept less than the best?

Perfection can create depression and tie you up.

One thing to understand is that perfectionism, in itself, is related to anxiety, meaning it’s not perfect. Learning to rewrite the standards of perfectionism and accepting new guidelines can help us reach our goals more efficiently and, well, more happily. Learning to be okay with who we are and what we truly are capable of is beautiful, and it is within our reach.

Maybe take the time to reevaluate your standards in this area. What is flexible and what is not; meaning where can you relax your boundaries a bit, and where are your boundaries definite? Maybe ask others for help, those you trust and who you know love and care about you.

Seek Help Perfectionism

If you have tried some of the above recommendations and still struggle with feelings of anxiety and depression, you can ask for help. There people out there who can help you develop healthy coping mechanisms so when things are tough, and it seems like everything is piling up on you, just perfect can become just enough.

You do not have to walk this road alone, do not be afraid of asking for help. Spoiler alert: None of us are perfect, we all need the assistance of and connection to others sometimes. It is nothing to be ashamed of but rather embraced. Let others love, help and serve you when you need it so you can get back to loving, helping and serving the ones you love.

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