Believe In Yourself; You’re Greater Than You Realize

All I have to say is, “WOW!” I sent everyone the check-in form yesterday and this morning we had a lot of responses, obviously, this was something that has been needed for a long time. I would like to take some time to respond to the responses we got. This is an anonymous and confidential check-in.

First I have to address some very, very strong negative emotions that were shared. You’re ‘PRICELESS’, you have a struggle, we all have struggles but yours is pornography. Okay, acknowledge that and now let’s move forward.

Woman looking into a mirror. Believe in yourself.
Believe in yourself to manage your addiction. Photo by Flachovatereza

You may not believe in yourself … yet, so rely on my belief in you. 

I would like to give you an exercise to do every morning. This is going to be tough but you can do it. 

Every morning I challenge you to look in the mirror and give yourself one compliment. I don’t care what that compliment is, but give yourself a compliment and write it down. Then the next day, you read the compliment you gave yourself on the first day and then give yourself another one, and write it down, etc.

Every day give yourself a compliment, write it down and read the previous days compliments. You cannot repeat the compliment, it has to be a new compliment.

Here’s a step-by-step example of how to do this, believe in yourself:

  1. I wake up.
  2. I go to the mirror.
  3. I look in the mirror and I give myself a compliment like, “You are helpful.”
  4. I write it, the compliment, down in a notebook or on a piece of paper, that won’t be lost. “You are helpful.”
  5. Throughout the day keep thinking about my compliment, “You are helpful.”
  6. Before going to bed, I look in the mirror again and say, “You are helpful.”

The next morning …

  1. I wake up.
  2. I go to the mirror.
  3. I look in the mirror and I read the previous day’s compliment, “You are helpful.” and
  4. I give myself a new compliment, “You are a very good designer.”
  5. I write the new compliment down, underneath the first compliment.
  6. Throughout the day, I keep thinking about my compliments, “You are helpful.” And “You are a very good designer.”
  7. Before going to bed, I look in the mirror again and say, “You are helpful.” And You are a very good designer.”

The next morning …

You repeat the process and continue adding a new compliment every day. 

Don’t wimp out on me. You can do this.

For some, this will be very difficult at first but, no matter what, do this and then check-in.

I know you’re stronger than you think you are. I know you can do hard things and this is the first step.

Picture of gumby toys with one supporting the other for quicker healing.
One on one counseling with someone who understands promotes quicker healing.

The Power of Individual Counseling

I would also like to emphasize the power of individual counseling. When you talk with someone that understands this addiction and what you’re going through, real healing can start taking place at a much quicker rate. I’ve seen it happen with hundreds of clients. 

You may say, “I can’t afford it. It’s too expensive. It won’t work for me. I’ve tried therapy before and it just doesn’t work.” 

I have heard these comments countless times and every individual that has finally decided to try it out has come back to me and said,

“You were right. I wished I would have done this sooner.”

If finances are truly an issue, there are options through insurance reimbursements, you can talk to our insurance liaison to learn more 801.882.2130, ecclesiastical support, family and friends. 

Your Health

Your health is the most important thing in this world. If you’re healthy and doing well, you can help others and I strongly believe this is part of the purpose of life. 

If you start to meditate, pray and ponder these things, you will be able to find the financial support you need.

You can do it! We’re here for you. 801.901.0279