Online Addiction Recovery Program
Utah Family Therapy introduces you to a concept called the Two-Part Brain, Five Key Strategies for Recovery and The Importance of Healing Together.
Addiction is chronic by nature, meaning that it’s an ongoing process.
There’s a certain part of the brain in the limbic system called the hippocampus that is mainly involved in memory. That means that it retains memories of all the experiences that we have that are pleasurable through life. It has a tendency, if we are not constantly aware on a consistent basis of where our thoughts are and our emotions are on how we’re doing, to revert back to the natural tendency, just respond instinctively to avoid pain and seek instant gratification.
The ongoing nature and support that is necessary are what we want you to understand through this process and what we have seen be extremely effective for individuals.
Our goal is to reach out and help individuals around the world that are struggling with these issues.
The Utah Family Therapy Program has been up now for, over eight years, we’ve formed a private email group where you can get on and email about what’s going on in your life.
Effectiveness of this process
This core group has shown us the effectiveness of this process, you can read some of their testimonies.
You’ll be led by those who have actually done this, and how they are forming a core ‘brotherhood’ in a sense, to seek support, and spouses and couples can do the same thing.
One individual that I want to talk about as I reflect on his story, came to see me about four years ago.
He struggled with pornography addiction for approximately 20 years. Constantly seeking help through that 20 year period of time to the point where he had completely given up.
He had been to other therapists, he’s tried the 12 Step groups before, and he reached the conclusion that absolutely nothing was going to work for him.
He was looking at pornography and acting out physically 2 to 3 times per week, and that had been going on for years.
When he was introduced to the concept of the two-part brain it absolutely floored him. He says,
“Why haven’t I heard this before? This makes more sense to me than anything I’ve ever heard. I now understand why it is pervasive and chronic and it doesn’t tend to go away. It always comes back, even after I have a great week or two weeks, it has a tendency to come back.”
That understanding of the two-part brain is absolutely foundational for recovery, and that leads us to the first key strategy of the language of recovery.
The 1st Key Strategy is Acknowledge
The first key to the language of recovery is to Acknowledge ‘IT’. Acknowledge that this addiction has become part of you and there is a part of you that wants to act out and there’s a part of you that wants sobriety. Once you learn how to completely acknowledge ‘IT’ and stop fighting ‘IT’, you can start healing.
The 2nd Key Strategy is Surrender
You must surrender to the reality that it is what it is. It’s not moral, it’s not rational, the limbic system simply seeks instant gratification.
We’re all dealing with that every day in every aspect of what we eat, how long we sleep, all of those types of things. But with an addiction, it is many times more powerful because of the dopamine reward system and the chemicals that are released in the brain.
This individual got this concept. He acknowledged it for the first time in his life.
“Ahh. There it is, and I now understand that I’m not crazy, that I’m not a bad person, just that ‘IT’ is just going to do what ‘IT’ is going to do.”
And so when he would recognize the addictive voice, he would say,
“There ‘IT’ is, of course my limbic system would want to do go that.”
Then he would surrender to that in not feeling bad about that, not feeling guilty about the trigger which is very difficult to change because most people feel guilty that they even have a trigger. That only makes ‘IT’ more powerful.
The surrender is you turn that over, you let it go. It’s not the issue at all.
The 3rd Key Strategy is Awareness
The third key strategy for recovery is awareness. The awareness is that you’re completely mindful or aware of where you’re at in the present moment, and he began the process of learning to do that, and through the initial stages of therapy when he would have a slip, we would rewind the tape and I would ask him the question,
“What was going on two minutes before the slip? Five minutes? Ten minutes? An hour?”
and so forth. That questioning got him to become more aware of the very first trigger that popped into his mind.
Now, four years later, when he has a slip, he is talking to me, and when I talk to him every three months, he says,
“Yeah, I had a couple of slips. I allowed the thought to linger for 10-15 seconds.”
But he has had no physical slips with actually looking at pornography or masturbation in over two years, and there are other cases that are similar to that.
As he has learned the key strategies of the language of recovery and incorporated them into his life, he has seen major changes in his life.
The 4th Key Strategy is ‘Mindfulness’
Mindfulness is that he practices his meditation on a consistent basis. That means that when he gets up in the morning he has a 15 minute period of time where he simply practices the meditation that is explained in the Utah Family Therapy. It’s a very powerful, proactive form of meditation that’s life-changing if a person will do it.
The greatest challenge that I have seen as a clinician in this work for the past 20 years is for individuals to actually do what they say they’re going to do in therapy and follow through with their assignments.
That’s my goal when an individual comes to meet with me, is to teach them to do that, to try to hold them accountable and if it didn’t work, if they didn’t keep their goals for the week,
“What went on with that? What do you think got in the way?”
Asking those questions helps them become more aware of what’s really been going on.
The 5th Key Strategy is Faith
The fifth and final key is critical that an individual just has faith or a belief that they truly can get better.
Every individual is responsible for their own healing to a large extent. Yes there can be support and help and there must be education which the Utah Family Therapy offers, but if an individual is going to purchase the Utah Family Therapy Program and not do the assignments, then it’s a waste of your time.
What we have packaged here from everything that I understand in this field and as I mentioned, I’ve been in this field a long time and I’ve taken bits and pieces of something called motivational interviewing, cognitive behavioral therapy, mindfulness and awareness therapy, emotionally focused therapy, little bits and pieces that make a lot of sense to this attachment theory of why at the core of who we are we do what we do.
Because we seek intimacy at every stage of our life as urgently as we seek food and drink. It’s kind of a genetically built-in drive, a survival drive. That is so easily exploited with sexuality and pornography.
Those individuals who struggle with this issue are not bad people, they’re just trying to connect.
They’re trying to feel loved and trying to feel needed and what this process will do for you if you are willing to be committed to it, it will teach you at the very core of who you are why you do the things you do.
What attachment is all about, what this addiction is trying to give to you or to your loved one. It’s an illusion. It never lasts. As we’ve said many times,
“One time is too many and 1,000 never is enough.”
When an individual actually gets that, that’s when their life begins to change because they know at the core deep down inside that it will never ever work.
You have an opportunity to get this material in a way that’s never been packaged before.
You will get access to a private email group that you can get on whenever you want, if you want and talk about your process. The value of this opportunity for you will be open at specific periods of time to make a commitment, to do the online course, to do the assignments.
Not just talk about doing them but doing them.
As you do that I can promise you that you will get better. Perhaps that’s not perfection, that will come in a long time. But you will get better and better and better as you let this material and the five keys to the language of recovery become literally a part of who you are. Those who have done it are getting better and their lives are changing.
I encourage you to read the testimonials, and I look forward to working with those who are willing to make the commitment to do it.
We offer a 30-day money-back guarantee. If for any reason that you feel the Utah Family Therapy Program isn’t for you within the first 30 days, you can let us know and we will refund your money no questions asked.
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