We Are Not Meant To Be Alone – No Man is an Island

We are not built to be alone.

We need to have other people involved in our lives.

We are social beings by nature and we do not flourish when we are left alone for too long.

In fact we need others to gain a sense of who we are and this process is constant throughout our lives.

There will never be a time when we do not need others.

I agree with the following statement by Thomas Wolf,

“The self comes into being and stays whole in consequence of a person’s having sustaining selfobject experiences”
(A self object can be anything in the external environment that we might come up against. Persons, places or things can be selfobject experiences. Everything that bounces off us in the environment impacts us).

The self cannot exist as a cohesive structure – that is, cannot generate an experience of well-being apart from the contextual surround of appropriate self object experiences.”

In other words, we just can’t feel totally whole all by ourselves.

Do what you can to engage others in your life.

Make the effort to talk to others.

Say hello to a stranger if you are lonely.

Be kind to someone at the grocery story. Kindness is usually met with kindness in return. We are all important in God’s eyes.

Only sadness, heartache and pain occurs when we are alone.

No man is an island entire of itself; every man
is a piece of the continent, a part of the main;
if a clod be washed away by the sea, Europe
is the less, as well as if a promontory were, as
well as a manor of thy friends or of thine
own were; any man’s death diminishes me,
because I am involved in mankind.
And therefore never send to know for whom
the bell tolls; it tolls for thee.
-John Donne