Struggling Marriage Because of Political Views?
It was on November 8th that Donald Trump won the election for President of the United States of America. Regardless of who you voted for, most of us know people who cannot seem to move past the election. Several couples have declared that it’s part of their struggling marriage.
One thing that is great about living in a democracy is our ability to have our own thoughts, feelings, and ideas, as well as the ability to express them.
It is a beautiful right we have in this great country but what happens if your significant other doesn’t share your belief?
Or even if they do, they want to move on with their lives, and maybe you just do not feel like that’s possible?
The Trump Effect
Some are calling this “The Trump Effect.” Many marriages are feeling the effect of partnerships being tested when one partner feels strongly opposed to our new president and his policies and the other partner disagrees or is indifferent.
In the majority of cases in heterosexual couples, it is the female partner who is most abhorred by President Trump’s behaviors and possibly his policies as well. This is not all that unusual based on Trump’s previous accusations of sexual deviancy and open degradation of women.
This can be hard for many women to understand as they feel so passionate about the need to support a movement against him. They may begin to feel those who do not support their cause are disloyal to them, especially if at any time they felt they have suffered, expressly due to their gender.
Regardless of one’s feelings about our current President, this is an important matter as it can be a great example of past and future conflicts that may also be resolvable.
Hearing Our Partner
Ensuring that we hear our partners, that we do all we can to try and understand their feelings and perspectives, looking for gentle ways to agree to disagree in those moments when you can’t seem to find an appropriate compromise.
Unresolvable conflicts arise in relationships; it is a normal component in partnerships; however, supporting, loving, and compromising should also be considered standard components. Whether it’s an elected official, punishment for a child, time with family or any other issue that might instigate conflict, allow yourselves the opportunity to look for and envelop compromise in your relationship.
Not only will you see improvement in your relationship but you’ll likely find you are happier and more appropriately supported by your loved one when you exercise the art of compromise.