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Helping Your Son

Helping Your Son Heal From Porn

Does your son struggle with porn or other compulsive technology issues? The topic of PORN is like a live wire discussion many shy away from. One parent recently said, “It’s too hard for me to even talk about. I just hope my kids will make the right decisions.”  Another parent stated, “If I find out he is ever looking at porn, he is dead!” Extremes? Perhaps, but the topic of porn is polarizing nonetheless!

Fear, shame, secrecy and oppositely, “porn is normal attitudes” have long dominated users, loved ones, and society in general. Have you ever been in a room when the topic of porn addiction comes up?  Pin drop!

Pin Drop

Just the other day I was with a group of friends and one man discussed how he overcame alcoholism; Everyone there congratulated him and honored him. Then another friend mentioned how he overcame porn addiction; Silence!, followed by him saying, “Well, I guess that was a conversation killer!”  

EVERY DAY, 68 million search queries related to pornography which equals 25% of total searches are made. If we ask you, “If your son is struggling with pornography, do you desire for him to get help?”  Of course, we as parents say yes. Is your son a bad kid? Of course not! Your son is exceptional and likely wants to stop but is scared and frustrated. His brain has been exploited by technological predators trying to glue him to a life of powerlessness so they can thrive financially. Culture casts deceptive stereotypes labeling those who use porn. Most if not all labels do NOT match your son! He is amazing and talented!

EMPOWER

Living in Utah County, we realize the culture here is predominately LDS. With that said, we want you to know we are here for you and your son, LDS or any denomination or belief. At Utah Family Therapy we use a program titled EMPOWER.

We do not shy away from the fact that a belief and understanding of a higher power is essential to healing. If your son wants LDS principles incorporated into therapy, great! If not, we will take a spiritual approach that meets your son’s needs. Your agenda is to help your son learn to regulate and make healthy lifelong decisions with technology. Your goal is our goal.

Empower is not about “fixing” your son but teaching him to access his own mastery. Physical, spiritual, emotional, relationships, self-care, and motivation. As a parent, I often wish I could remove the pain my children endure. Other times, I realize some pain is ok… it can teach us to surrender. We all have felt this powerlessness at times.

Self Mastery

I unequivocally believe that a Savior died to allow us to access power beyond our mortality as individuals and parents. We will not force this belief on your son but invite him to access whatever he is ready to access. Sometimes we need extra guidance and strategies in learning to access the multi-faceted aspects of that power. This is what EMPOWER strives to incorporate into your son’s life. Mastery of decisions, technology, and sexuality.  

NOTE: We offer EMPOWER for your daughters as well.

 

Robert S. Robison, LMFT • Therapist for your son struggling with porn.

 

 

 

 

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