Why do we feel useless & lost? How do we find our value?
I thought I would take a minute to share a brief story with you about a man who caused a lot of pain in his life to his family, his life, his relationships, and his business.
I was talking to an individual the other day and they mentioned how awful they were, how much pain they have caused their family and how it was too late for him, on and on and on.
If I wouldn’t have stopped him, I think he would have gone on for hours about the pain he’s caused others and how bad he was. He shared his story with me, which was a common one in the porn addiction scene. He told me about how he was caught, how it’s affecting the relationships, can think clearly, scattered, etc… and that was why he started looking for help.
He also said,
“I keep wanting to see it again, but I don’t. It’s like a dragon with unquenchable thirst and even all consuming at times.”
How many of us can relate to this feeling and oh so bad we want this dragon slayed?
I finally said,
“Thank you for sharing this. I’m sure it was very difficult.”
I also said,
“I think it’s time you pick yourself up and focus on you. Focus on healing because you want too, not because of anyone else but because you want to be the man you’ve always wanted to be.”
I also asked him to describe that person.
I will ask you the same thing:
- Who do you want to be?
- What are you doing?
- What kind of characteristics do you have?
- What is your social life like?
- What is your family life like?
- What is your spiritual life like?
Identify the real you.
Now look at where you’re at and identify what traits you already have and build on them.
For this individual, he was extremely artsy, I asked him how he could use his artistic talent to start being the person he wants to be?
How can you use your existing talents to become more of the person you want to be?
Don’t beat yourself up! This is a daily simple thing to do, focus on using your talent every day to become that person and add to it.
Remember, you are not your struggle. You are a human being, like us all, who has a struggle.
Stay committed in your recovery process, improving every day.