Unwanted Sexual Activity
Children are being forced into unwanted sexual activity due to the widespread availability of porn, a senior Church of England bishop has warned. The Bishop of Chester cited a Bristol University study of 13 to 17-year-olds found that 40% had suffered sexual coercion ranging from rape to being pressured into unwanted sexual activity often with elements of physical violence.
[gdlr_styled_box content_color=”#ffffff” background_color=”#9ada55″ corner_color=”#3d6817″ ]A BBC survey of 700 children aged 12 and 13 suggested that 20% had seen porn that shocked or upset them, and more than 10% had made, or taken part in, a sexually explicit video, the Bishop told peers.[/gdlr_styled_box]
Conservative peer Lord Farmer warned that the premature sexualization of young minds was reinforcing outdated stereotypes that women were primarily sex objects to provide men with sexual gratification. It’s about parents talking openly with children about sexuality and the issues around pornography.
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Every day more and more disturbing news is coming out about how porn is warping your child’s mind, and destroying our society.
What can you do to help your child?
Stop Being a Friend
I know this sounds harsh but our children have enough friends in their life, good and bad, you need to be a parent. You must be the teacher of rules, values, and integrity. Your child needs you and other positive influencers and role models, not friends.
Don’t Be Afraid.
Don’t be afraid to lead with love and say, “No” Don’t be afraid to have your child screaming, “I hate you. You’re ruining my life.” for guiding them in a positive direction. Don’t be afraid to talk with them.
Communicate Your Fears and Desires
You want your child to be the best they can be. You want them to excel beyond your wildest dreams and you know the devastation addiction can cause. Don’t shy away from sitting down and having some direct communication time. Let them know the dangers of pornography, drugs, alcohol, and other negative behaviors. Let them know that you care and they can always talk to you.
You have probably noticed how easy it is to talk and talk, but the true test is to listen. It is really difficult to listen to your child tell you all of your faults and how they feel like you don’t care, but just listen; listen to them complain, listen to them cry … just listen and don’t allow your own emotions to come into it.
After you have taken the time to listen, now is the moment you have been waiting for LOVE them.
Give your child a big hug and let them know how proud you are of them for talking to you. Let them know how hard you realize it was for them to bring up these issues with you. Let them know you care and that you love them.
Being a parent is the hardest thing you will ever have to do because you won’t get the validation or love that you deserve immediately, but it does come. The rewards for parenting are some of the richest rewards you could ever enjoy. Everything that is truly worth value, takes time, a lot of time, to cultivate and to strengthen.
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